You Have a Great Past Just Ahead of You

If you were part of the “second family”,  summer vacation to you meant the beach:  sand and sea and the smell and taste of salt on your skin. It’s boogie boards and sunscreen and the sound of seagulls and the sting of jelly fish and buying the tee shirt with a beagle in the hammock and  going for ice cream on the sound. But if you were one of “the four” and you grew up in the land-locked midwest and it was 1980 something, summer vacation was a whole other thing. It was camping in the rain, little cereal boxes of your favorite cereals (except for the Raisin Bran which nobody wanted), trips to the ER for stitches and ear infections, and Silver Dollar City.

The first family vacation we ever took that was not to visit grandparents came about from a conversation with Paul’s brother David who insisted that the perfect vacation spot was hidden away deep in the Ozarks in an out-of-the-way spot known as Branson, Missouri. Today, of course, Branson is a destination in and of itself which draws thousands upon thousands of visitors each year to its music shows. But this was before all that. This was about a little theme park where you rode the trolley from the parking lot to the gate not because it was too far too walk but because it was one of the few “rides” the park offered and you listened to the patter of the “tour guide” who explained that you were about to step back in time – 100 years to be exact. “Welcome to Silver Dollar City – where you’ll find  a great past just ahead of you!” he promised as we stepped off the trolley and into some of the best memories we would make as a family.

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The first time we went was sometime in the early 80s; there is some disagreement among us as to the exact year so we’ll just call it 1980something. We sent away for the brochures and when they arrived in the mail (Seriously. That’s how we did things before the internet.), we sat down on family nights and poured over them:  planning our itinerary, studying the maps and highlighting the best route from Illinois to Missouri, making a budget, writing the lists of all the things to do and take and ready before our big adventure. How many weeks (months) did we do this?

Because we had no money, we knew hotel rooms and restaurant meals were out of the question. But not to worry – for a fraction of the cost we could buy a brand new tent (I think we already had some sleeping bags we had collected along the way) and thanks to our trusty brochures we found the Blue Mountain Campground nearby (with a swimming pool and laundry facilities!) where we could pitch our tent. We could afford tickets to Silver Dollar City for a day and half and the rest of the time we would vacation at the campground:  swimming and collecting wood for the fire we would build to cook our meals and toast marshmallows for the s’mores. What could possibly go wrong you ask. Let me count the ways.

1.   Before using a tent for the first time it would behoove. . .  (okay – cross that off my bucket list – I have always wanted to use that word in a sentence). . . it would behoove you to set it up at home to make sure (a) all the necessary pieces are present and accounted for and (b) you actually know how said pieces fit together.

2.  It rains in the Ozarks. A lot. Not all tents are waterproof.  Soaking wet sleeping bags require a heavy duty dryer which can only be found at a laundromat. Also, a strong storm can blow down a tent altogether.

Early one morning, after a night where no one had slept due to the soaking wet tent, the soaking wet sleeping bags, and the all round soaking wet, miserable conditions, the owners of the campground took pity on us. Chad was outside our tent – yelling.  “Faye says for y’all to come on up to the house for pancakes and get those babies in outa’ this rain!!”  Thank God for Chad and Faye and  Ozark hospitality!

3.  Camp playgrounds are all fun and games until someone parachutes out of a swing, lands in the gravel, and slices open her hand which will require a trip to the emergency room for stitches, taking up an entire afternoon of vacation. In years to come we would battle strep throat, ear infections and stomach flu – so much so that it seemed it wasn’t vacation if somebody didn’t get hurt or sick.

4.  It is best not to allow a three year old to jump into the deep end of the swimming pool holding a beach ball as a flotation device. This can go south pretty quickly.

5.  It turns out young children are more enamored with playing in the fire and cooking over the fire than they are with eating the food cooked in said fire. They’re not so much about the char the fire leaves on the hotdogs or the crunch of aluminum-foil-wrapped- potatoes cooked in the coals which never seemed to get done. But they did absolutely love the little individual boxes of cereal that they could open up, pour in the milk and eat right out of the box.

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And yet, for all of that, we returned to the Blue Mountain Campground again and again, year after year.

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And to Silver Dollar City.  After the first year we figured out that for not too much more money, we could buy a season pass and then go to the park every day for our five days of vacation. We rode the train with its steam powered engine and never grew tired of the train robbers who entertained the passengers with their scripted and improvised lines.

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Paul in the saloon show

We were regulars at the Silver Dollar Saloon where the singing bartenders served rootbeer in frosty mugs and peanuts in the shell. The saloon girls put on their show and hauled a sucker up from the audience to mock and ridicule him and so of course the kids figured out which chair they always chose to pull their victim from and convinced Dad to sit in the chair at least once a season. In the middle of the show Carrie Nation and her Suffragettes marched in to break up the riffraff and it took the Sheriff to restore order. The girls bought garters and when they got home they practiced the Can-Can and sang “Why do they call us wild women, wild women, wild women?  Why do they call us wild women when we’re just as tame as can be“.  Rosie was the main saloon girl and one day on our way to the park from the campground we stopped at a convenience store to pick something up and there was Rosie – buying a loaf of bread!  Day made!

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Good times at the Silver Dollar City Saloon.

The street theatre actors recognized the kids from year to year and incorporated them into their acts. They were on a first name basis with the Sheriff and the Deputy, with the Hatfields and McCoys. With the Rainmaker and the Undertaker who wandered the streets with his measuring tape. They loved the Story Teller and knew what time she would be at her spot to tell stories and choose them to be a part of them. They knew the musicians and where they performed and what time to catch them during the day. They knew the lady who ran the general store and the basket maker and the blacksmith.

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And then there was Mercy.  He was the star of Silver Dollar City.  He seemed to be everywhere:  interacting with the guests, heckling and teasing and aggravating and everyone loved him. He knew our kids by name and if we missed a year he would ask them where they had been. Eventually they got to know the actor behind the character. His name was Jack McDowell and they invited him to lunch and he told them about Silver Dollar City behind the scenes. We exchanged Christmas cards and kept up with him and his career for many years.

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There were a only a  few rides:  the American Plunge which was a log flume ride and left your stomach at the top of the summit before plunging you down the to the bottom and the Lost River of the Ozarks inner tube ride that guaranteed a good dousing under the waterfall. There was a ball pit and a playground  and a carousel, but mostly it was about the community:  the musicians around every corner and the street theatre which was both predictable and spontaneous, the craftsman and the artisans. It was about the funnel cakes and the frozen lemonade and the penny candy at the general store. As the kids got a little older we would let them roam the park on their own and meet back periodically to check in at a designated spot (it was a different time and a different place). One day I was walking through the park alone and I turned a corner to find the baritone from the barbershop quartet all alone in an isolated spot singing “How Great Thou Art”.   His eyes were closed, his arms lifted to the sky and it struck me that he was not performing, he was worshiping.  This was  a private moment, not a public one.  I tried to slip away unnoticed so as to not interrupt him when he opened his eyes and saw me. He blushed a little.  “I’m on my break,” he said.  “I just needed to recharge.”  For years I would recall that scene when I needed to recharge.

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Every day at the park started with the sheriff deputizing all the kids with sheriff badges and then lining them up to stand at attention as the flag was raised. The day ended with the lowering and the folding of the flag.

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The Sheriff deputizes the kids every morning. . . with a badge.
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In the evening we headed to Echo Hollow, the big amphitheater, for the Silver Dollar City Jubilee: an evening of Bluegrass music and comedy with Mercy as the warm up act. They might  change the show from year to year but the performers were always the same – and once again they recognized us and greeted us like old friends. And then it was back to the campground where, if we were lucky, the tent and sleeping bags would be dry and we could light a fire and Dad would pull out his harmonica and we would unwind from the the day so we could  get up in the morning, eat little boxes of cereal and head back to do it all over again.

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I don’t know how many times we went on this vacation. Five maybe?  Six? I know we went back a couple of times after Joy was born. She danced in the streets to the music, she plummeted down the American Plunge tucked in between us and rode the Lost River of the Ozarks, squealing with delight as the water fall dumped water over our heads. She rode the carousel and ate the funnel cakes and slept in the tent. But I think it was after that that we moved east and the story shifted.

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Joy dancing to the music

We made one trip with all of eight of us. In was in 1989. Fletcher was a year old, Joy was five and the others were . . .  older. But it wasn’t the same. Some of the old, familiar faces were gone, others had taken their place who didn’t know us from the next guy and there some new, added  “attractions”.  Still, it was enough the same that we could say, “Oh!  And remember this?!” But you could tell that change was afoot.

The last trip – 1995. And that’s Jack McDowell in the middle.

In the summer of 1995 we were making a trip to Colorado for Paul’s parent’s 50th wedding anniversary. Somehow somebody suggested, “What if we went through Branson and spent a day at Silver Dollar City?  But maybe we sleep in a cabin.”  And so we did. We wanted Fletcher to see it, to experience it, but afterwards we all sort of wished we hadn’t done it. The magic was gone.  It was more like a conventional theme park – more about the plethora of  rides which had been added  over the years and less about the craftsmen and the music and the street theatre. Less personal somehow and more crowded. We did look up Jack McDowell. who was working someplace else by then and had lunch with him.  But he had moved on too, and we all mourned the loss of the place where we had met and spent so many happy hours. We stopped by the Blue Mountain Camp Ground just to see if it was still there.  It was.  Chad had died some time ago and Faye was away when we stopped, but when we went in the office, there on the bulletin board was a picture of two year old Joy.

Joy reminds me that in 1999, Paul and I and she and Fletch stopped again when we were traveling west to see family. Oddly enough, I have absolutely no memories of it.  Maybe it was just too different and I didn’t want to remember it that way.

One of the kids said once, “Don’t you wish you could go back to Silver Dollar City for the first time?”  And that sort of captures it. It was magical. Pure and utter magic. But it’s sort of like Camelot or Brigadoon. It’s been almost 40 years since that first time and now it’s gone and there’s no way to get back to what it was no matter how much you might wish otherwise. And maybe that’s where the magic lies. The place – as we knew it –  is gone.  The children – as we knew them – are gone.  But the stories.  They are alive and well and welcome us back again and again.

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Nobody Doesn’t Like Sarah Lee

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She was my second August baby  – born in the heat and humidity of a Kansas summer in 1978. We lived in an apartment on the second and third stories of an old house without air conditioning and it was beyond miserable.

Not only that, but we had learned only a few weeks before that the landlord was selling the house and we would need to move. So my friend Lori came and helped me to pack up the house where we ran fans to move the sticky, hot air and tried to keep the six, four, and two year old from killing each other or unpacking the boxes as fast as we packed them. Actually she packed and I sat in front of the fan drinking iced tea. I was nine months pregnant, soon-to-be homeless, tired and hot and cranky, and terrified of the upcoming labor and delivery. The memory of the one from two years before still haunted me and I was convinced this time I or the baby would surely die.

It was too hot to sleep, I couldn’t get comfortable, and about 5:00 a.m. I woke Paul. “I think we should go to the hospital.” “Why, are you in labor?” he asked as he grabbed his clothes. “I think so. Maybe. I don’t know. Not really. But it would be cool there and I think I might be having some contractions . . . maybe.” Paul finally agreed that the worst that could happen is that we could get some temporary relief before they sent us home. By 5:30 we were at the hospital and I thought I might be in labor. Maybe. Much to our surprise, they admitted me and as the contractions picked up in intensity, Paul and I settled in for the long haul, drinking in the cool, de-humidified air. I hoped and prayed that I would have a baby by nightfall, but we were not optimistic. Before too long, the nurse announced in a very cheery voice, “Mrs. Abbott, I think we’re going to have this baby here by breakfast.” Seriously? How could this happen?? And I knew at that moment that there was, indeed, a God in heaven. The delivery was fast, complication free, and almost before we started, it was over. Sarah Leanne – born August 9 at 7:30 a.m. I remember the doctor singing the jingle from the Sarah Lee commercial:  Everybody doesn’t like something, but notbody doesn’t like Sarah Lee..

But we still had that pesky issue of our house being sold out from under us. We eventually found an upstairs apartment a block down the street from our previous residence which is a whole story within itself.  Once again, it was an old house and we were renting the upstairs but it had no kitchen so we had to build a kitchen and “we” are not carpenters. But another story for another day. In the meantime we were still in August, still in Kansas, and still without air conditioning. So we improvised a plan that we would load up the kids and the baby and Lori in our old van and drive to a pastor’s conference being held at a camp in the Rocky Mountains. We found a great cardboard box to take for the baby to sleep in, threw some sleeping bags in the van and we were good to go. We had grown up in Colorado and we knew it would be cool and dry and besides we could stop by Pueblo at the foot of the mountains and visit my mother so she could see the new baby. “Let’s  just make it a surprise visit,” I insisted. It is only in retrospect that I see that what made this attractive is that I did not wish to face my mother’s wrath when she learned of our plan to take a three day old infant on such an odyssey. I reasoned (incorrectly it turns out) that if we showed up on her doorstep she would be so pleased that she would keep her opinions of the wisdom of the plan to herself.

What I did not know at the time is that as we were making our way to the mountains, my oldest sister Lila was traveling across the plains of Kansas. My mother insisted that she take a detour to “check up on Sherry and the baby and to make sure she’s not overdoing. But we won’t tell her you’re coming – just drop in and surprise them,” my mother said. Which is how my sister arrived on the porch of 1223 Ohio in Lawrence, Kansas, to find that not only were we not at home, but that we were on a road trip to Colorado. “That can’t be,” she explained to the downstairs tenants.  “She’s just had a baby. They wouldn’t be so stupid as to haul that baby across the country.”

In the “new” apartment, the three older kids all shared one big bedroom and Sarah slept in a cradle (which had replaced the card board box) in our room, but she was outgrowing the cradle which meant we would need to make other arrangements. Our good friends had given birth to their first born a few days before Sarah was born which meant that they too were on the lookout for a crib. And then one night Jim and Libby showed up at our front door holding a big box. “We brought you a crib,” they said. “Because if our baby is going to sleep in a new crib, so should yours.” And they came in and we unpacked it and set it up in the kids’ room and they slept through it all. It was not the first or the last time that God would show his generosity to us and our family through this couple and it was nights like these that linked our stories over the years.

When she was about three we were staying at a campground on vacation – The Blue Mountain Campground in Branson, Missouri. We pitched our tents, cooked over the campfire, went to Silver Dollar City for one day and hung out at the pool for several days. In the days of resorts and beach houses it sounds pretty lame but for somebody with four kids and no money, it was a great way to vacation! It was on one of those “hanging out at the pool” days that it happened. I had run up to the tent for something and Paul was with the kids. The big kids had a beach ball that they had blown up and were tossing back and forth to each other. Sarah didn’t want to get in the water – she couldn’t swim and the water was over her head – and she was happy to stand by the side of the pool in her new “thwimming thoup” and throw the ball to them. On one of the throws she forgot to let go and flew into the pool, lost the ball, and disappeared under the water. Her brother tried to help her but couldn’t manage to swim and carry her and that left Dad, a non- swimmer himself. He lay down flat on the concrete, reached his body and his arm far into the pool and grabbed her, pulling her out of the water.  He likes to point out that he is the only non-swimmer in the family and yet the only one to save someone from drowning. Given her inauspicious start to camping, it is surprising that Sarah is the only one of the six who still enjoys pitching a tent in the great outdoors and sleeping on the ground. But she’s adventuresome like that and she gets her love for Nature and the out of doors from her father.

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For Sarah, life was about discovery.

When she was about five and learning to read we would painstakingly work on letter sounds, blends, and trying to combine them into words. But it was laborious and less than rewarding. And then one day it clicked and she looked at the letters and they formed themselves into a word and then another and then another. And that tiny little person looked up at me, her face lit up with the excitement of a whole new world that was about to open up to her and shouted,  “This is great!! I can read and listen at the same time!!!” And so began her life-long love of reading. To this day, she is one of my best resources when it comes to new and interesting reading material because she is always reading something.

She must have been six or seven when one of the other kids pointed out to me that Sarah was walking around the neighborhood with a clipboard, knocking on doors. “Why?” was the obvious question. They just shrugged. Turns out she was taking a poll to find out who they intended to vote for in the next election. Better than selling vacuum cleaners I guess.

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When she was ten we moved into a new neighborhood – one with kids. This happened to coincide with her new found interest in the performing arts and before long she was hard at work: writing, casting, directing, acting and producing a play. It might have been a musical. One summer day a steady stream of neighbors began arriving at the front door – some of whom we had never met. They had tickets in hand and they were there for the “show” – one in which their children had landed starring roles. Sarah appeared and pointed them to the basement, handing out the hand-made programs as they filed past her. “You might need to set up some folding chairs,” she instructed me.  “And put out some cookies for intermission.” Got it. They played to a packed house who cheered loudly and applauded wildly and when the reviews were in, they were universally favorable though the show closed before it ever made it to off Broadway.

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It was because of her that I began directing high school theatre – something I went on to do for twenty years. She gave me courage to tackle an overwhelming and intimidating task and figure it out as I went – to trust my instincts and to honor the process of creativity. She taught me that.

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She went to a small college that really had no theatre department but by the time she left she had built up a whole program and when she graduated they hired her to carry it on. In the beginning she acted, directed, produced, designed and built the sets, made the programs, procured the facility, collected the props – all of it (just like when she was ten years old). In the early years if it got done, it’s because she did it. But to me this is the truly remarkable part: she so inspired others and mentored them that they took  on responsibility and leadership and she passed on her love of the art to them. I saw every show she was in and every show she directed in those years and I was in awe of her every single time.

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And what also became abundantly clear in those days is that she is one of the most hard-working people I know and she is a natural leader. This she has proven at every job she has ever held.

The other thing I have learned from her is that artistry resides in the soul – not in the equipment. Put her behind a camera and she will capture the moment, the person, the emotion, the beauty or the story every time. She “sees” it and then allows us to do the same. It’s a gift and it doesn’t matter how much you spend on the camera, if you don’t have it then you don’t have it. I have always wished I could just hire her to come and follow me around and take pictures of my life because it would help me to see the mundane or the ordinary as the truly beautiful and extraordinary moments that they are.

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And then there is this: she is a story teller. Whether it’s telling you about the man in the airport and their discussion about tattoos, or retelling an old family story, or her photograph of a little girl on the boogie board at the beach, or putting on a play in the basement, she is a master story teller. And we are blessed beyond measure to have her as a part of our story. Something tells me her best stories are yet to be written.

Happy Birthday, Sarah! You amaze me every day.